I feel for you, I really do. this is going to largely depend on your states regulations i can only provide my own expirence with this sorta thing and the best thing i can tell you if the child is not considered a legal adult (18 in most states some are as low as 16 that i know of) then the parent or legal guardian has the right to make any demands of the child outside of abuse. now abuse can be physical or emotional. if you are worried about an abuse situation it may be the hardest thing you have ever had to do but call CPS (child protective services) they can give you information about your rights and abilities. My grandma was a wonderful woman and cared much like it seems you do for all her grandkids, and i tell you she called CPS on her own son because he wasn't doing right by them. lemme tell you it straightened up his act in a hurry. in the end it will go one of two ways either it will cause the parents to rethink their moral compass and parenting decisions or they will decide that your attacking them. it's dangerous territory, it worked out in my family but there are no gurntees.




