At this point the only thing left is honesty. Your son's rage seems to be more out of embarrassment. Of course you will have to be age appropriate when discussing your sex life with your child and it will be embarrassing to both of you. But this is the perfect opportunity to talk to your son about the facts of life, responsibility, and accountability. Try to put a little humor in it so that he doesnt feel like it is just too humiliating to even look at you. Start with how natural it is for two adults who love each other to express themselves in this way and end with the responsibility and accountability. Also, apologize to him for what he saw. I know he didn't have the right to look through your phone, but it was scary for him anyway. And last but not least, either erase things your boyfriend sends you immediately or ask him not to send them to your phone.
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My son saw pictures of me naked - help!
My son went into my cell and saw pictures of me naked and read a very explicit text message sent from someone I have been seeing, but that he is unaware of. He confronted me about it in a fit of rage that only escalated when I told him to respect the privacy boundaries btwn a mother and child and not go into my things. After much arguing, he was sent to his room and I called it a night. I need to discuss this with him today, but don't know how - please help!
Agree. It was a shock to him and looking back I see you realize that it should have been handled. But the above answer is right, you do need to sit down with your son and explain and I would really get rid of the pictures ASAP. What would have happened if a friend asked to use your cell and saw them or you lost the cell phone. Maybe U2 website would have had new pictures. The way I think is that I do not put on my computer or cell phone any pictures that I would not want to share, it prevents embarrassing moments. Hope things work out for you and your son, REMEMBER>>> he is your son and he maybe trying to protect his mother, one who he loves
When you say child, just how old is your son and when you say he confronted you was there anger in his voice and did he make any demands? Your son may have an oedipus complex which is an unconscious idea and feeling which center around the desire to possess the parent of the opposite sex and eliminate the parent or suitor of the same sex. Has he ever told you he's the man of the house and tried to tell you how things are done? If so you're going to have to burtst his bubble and bring him back down to earth. He has to realize that he is the child and not the parent or adult to dominate you and your life. You also may need a male figure to explain how a parent and child have their own little places in society. If you have a brother he may have to step in or if the guy you're seeing is pretty level headed he may have to talk with his "competition". I wish you luck.
Every guy feels possessive of mom. He is feeling jealous and enraged. I heard my mom having sex with her boyfriend when I was young, and took me a whilke to shake that. Give him time, and be understanding, that your son holds you on a pedestal...You are his queen always...Go into the conversation, with that in mind, and I'm sure you will find the words to convey to him.
Yes the first answer is right, and dooooo erase the pictures and I would not take any more, your a mother please act like one
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