What am I supposed to do?

That is a hard spot to be in. It sounds like you've talked to him about it. You could talk to him about seeking help. there has to be a Porn anonymous like AA or something. Or maybe some counseling or marriage counseling.

If it really does bother you, and he doesn't change, you have hard decision to come to about this and him.

I wish you the best.

This is an issue that deserves more attention than given. I believe this can ruin a relationship, just like anything can when one partner feels dis-ease or dissatisfaction. The issue with porn is that it's a fantasy and fantasies are meant to stay fantasies. Over time, large amounts of consumption can blurr the lines of fantasy and reality. If you've voiced your feeling to your mate and he isn't willing to deal with them, you need to ask yourself how important this is to you. And if it's important to you, thats all that matters. Although most people view porn as harmless, it's quite the opposite. Porn can create feelings of insecurity, disrespect and unstableness in a relationship. And those issues worsen when you don't have an outlet, hence him saying he'll never change. So essentially you need to decide what you can and cannot live with, and don't look back. Believe me, if you feel this way about his viewing porn now, it will only worsen with time and every time you get a glimpse of it. If he is not ready to stop viewing the porn, but wants to keep the peace, dishonesty will be the next step. He will attempt to hide it and when caught, will lie or get angry. This again will worsen the feelings you have about this entire situation. We as people have to understand people have their own paths and you can't change anyone. The person has to be willing to change and we as people have to be willing to allow them to change. That may include distancing ourselves from that person, which is not always easy, especially if you love them. Do what's best for you and you will never regret it. Check out this 7 part video on youtube about pornography, it may give you insight on what your husband is going through and help you make a decision that is best for you. Hopefully, you can get him to view as well. http://youtube.com/watch?v=ALeRKvxrJjs&feature=related

Again, i have lived this very life and my heart goes out to you cause i know how this makes you feel. I also know that the man i live with now looks at porn. Men just cant help themselves when it comes to beautiful women without clothes. But i think it is serious. It damages our self image, our self esteem and makes us very insecure about our sexuality. Are we not enough, sexy enough, do we have to compete with these women who expose themselves to the whole world? And the fact that you approached him with it, and he did not listen to you was a big smack in the face! All i can tell you is what works for me. I told my man i know he has uncontrollable testosterone that keeps his fingers punching in porn on the p.c. and there are so many sites and ads that lead him there when he isnt even thinking about it, but i told my man that it's porn or me. If there is something i can do, dress up, role play whatever, (just no three way) that's not me, i will do whatever it takes to keep his eyes on me. I have even watched porn with him, on the t.v not computer. It has helped us both! But im sure he still goes looking, only now its just not so obvious when he does, and in some sort i have learned to deal with it. But i have told him how it makes me feel inside and that i think it is disrespectful, and he loves me enough to not do that to me...but he is still a man.

From past exspencie of this with my ex is get out of the relationship. He has already addmitted that he doesn't want to stop. He should of told you about his desires before you married him. They do not seem to care how belittled it makes us to feel that they have to watch prono. I really feel bad for you I dealt with it 10 years and the whole time I felt small. I finally decided that I wanted and needed my self esteem back and just told him I couldn't take it and as of today 20 years later he still watches them. I have children by him and his knew wife shared that with me an shes in the same boat. I know you love him and it hard but it's best to move on so that you can have a good relationship some day with someone who respects you. Good luck