When knowing when to walk away

It is hard on you as well as the children. Although your child wants his father in his life as it should be you are hurting him not helping him by living this way. You have been split up and then you have shared a home and had different bedrooms. You should explain to your son that you know how he feels and reasure him that even though daddy is having to move that that you will let him visit him often. I would then talk to your husband and ask him if he could come by often after you two split for the reassurance of your sons benifit as a father he should want to do that. Then I would get him into some counciling to help him adjust,it may take a little time but with time love and patience and councling he will be much better. if you prolong this it will just get harder and he will find it harder to deal with. You also need to be happy and your other child. You should not have to live with a man that is cheating on you.

We split up once, got back together, things were ok for awhile. Then bought a house moved in last July, by August he was living in another bedroom. Is back in the same bedroom together. Things were never the same. Now the rollarcoaster started up again. When we split for 8 months, my son ended up physically hurting himself. Both kids blamed me, cried for months on end to see their father, even though he didn't put an effort. My son still sees a psychiatrist, on meds. The horror I went through during that 8 months as a mother, seeing my children beg me to get their father to see them or call them. My happiness is my childrens, that is what a parent should do sacrifce everything for them, only one of us figured it out, me.

You are not looking at the most important element in this situation. That element is YOU. Children are certainly an obligation and a responsibility, but YOU are supposed to be happy. People who believe parents should sacrifice their happiness, sanity and common sense for their children are idiots.

Your special needs son is manipulating you because he probably has no concern for your needs or emotions. It is only natural for him to see only those things he himself wants. The most important thing you can teach him about life is that he will not always get what he wants. He has to learn to consider the things other people want too. That can be extremely difficult with a "special needs" child, but it is much more preferable and less stressful than living with a man who could care less about his family, his kids or you.

If you have proof of your husband's infidelity, retain a good attorney and make him pay for that sex for the rest of his life. Have your attorney sock it to him for all the alimony and child support you can get and don't look back. In the long run, you will be much happier and so will your kids.