With such demanding work scedules how can we make time for "us"?

I totally understand this scenario! My husband works 7 days a week from August to February (their busy season) and it can be hard to find time together. The key here is making relaxation time, quality time. Here are a couple suggestions:

Once a week try cooking something new together. I'm a terrible cook with a lot of drive and he's a great natural cook who would be happy to eat pizza. It sounds so simple, but you can learn a little about each other, and planning can create anticipation, even for something as simple as dinner. Light candles and no tv while you are at the table.

I am a true believer that tv has killed the passion in so many relationships. You would be surprised if you limit your tv watching together down just an hour to two hours a night how much more time you would feel like you spend together. So what do we do together?

Try splitting the newspaper (I read business and lifestyle and he reads sports). Go walking around the park or find a new neighborhood. Take a class together, Judo, Yoga or Dance. If you live near a big city there are countless things to do.

Communicate directly with him and tell him you would like one day or night a week to dedicate to turning the tv off and doing something else together. I watched my parents do this for the past 35 years and I've done this for the past four years my husband and I have been together and you'll be surprised what it can do. Good luck!

Your situation happens to a lot of us. The relationship is strained by external circumstances, not by the chemistry between the two of you. That's important to remember. Make the most of the time you do have and keep in mind this situation won't go on forever.

I agree tv is not the best thing for relationships, but with him exhausted from work, he needs down-time. The most pro-active thing you can do is to find him a new job. It's very hard to look for a new job when you're working so much, but he may not have any other choice. He probably doesn't want to live this way forever.

He sounds like a loyal, hard worker. Companies are lucky to have people like that. Talk to him, support him, help him find a job where he's working 5 days a week. Otherwise he's going to burn out.

I too know how you feel. I refer to my hubby as "that guy I married that comes to visit once a week". He works days, evenings and grave's and is on call 24/7 so time together is rare. What I like to do is make a surprise visit to him at work when he isn't busy. Show up w/ pizza or doughnuts (enough for everyone - especially the boss). Also, we leave each other notes. Sounds tacky, but a little unexpected note means a lot - same as texting - send a dirty pic of yourself with no note, I bet he will find a way to get some personal time w/ you. When he gets home in the middle of the night I will also get up for few minutes with him or even surprise him by jumping in the shower with him. When he see's you making an effort he will see how important it is and make more quality time on his end. My hubby does much more now that I have made it obvious how important it is to me. (stops for milk/eggs etc in the morning on his way home so I don't have to leave, wakes up an hour or so early, stays up an hour late, etc...) It takes a lot of sacrifice on both ends (usually sleep), but in the long run it is worth it.

If it is a must that you two spend time together, you'll find a way