Tithing is about obedience and giving with a joyful heart. Technically, if you and your husband worked it should be 10% of the combined income. But that isn't the end all be all. It is the condition of your heart that matters. You see, God doesn't NEED your money, technically it is all His anyway, as He allowed your husband to be healthy and have the job that he has. He is the provider of all things, great and small. That being said, if you cannot give a full 10% then try doing service in your church to contribute. Make sure that you are doing it out of love and not for the sense of obligation.
If your husband does not want you to tithe at all because he is a non-believer, this is what the Lord says about that: Ephesians 5: 22-24
22) Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24) Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
And Colossians 3:18 says: "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is pleasing unto the Lord."
This does not mean in the sexual way as so many try to make it sound, but in the way that your husband should have the ultimate say in most things, but that you should also listen to the promptings of the Spirit. This is a hard thing for people who are married to someone who does not go to church and shares the same values. You said he is not religious, but what does he believe?
Let me tell you my experience with tithing:
I have been out of work since January and my husband just started a job on Monday, that most likely isn't going to work out, but guess what? We have been going to church for over 14 years and strangely enough God has provided for us. Don't ask me how, He just has. Sometimes its something simple like a rebate check that we forgot about or one day we found cash in our Bible. Many may say this is coincidence, but it isn't. Everytime it is exactly what we need.
Also, when we look at Cain and Able, their offerings were their tithes. The reason that Cain was upset that his offering was not pleasing unto the Lord was the condition of his heart, as he felt that what he offered was by his own power and not what God had allowed him to have. However, Able knew that all he had to offer was by the grace of God. This made him jealous of Able and so he murdered him.
Remember, you can never out give God, for He is the provider of it all. Listen to your heart on this matter, but do not cause dissension in your home over it, that is not what God wants for you. I hope this helps. Good luck and Godspeed. Susu
This answer was edited by Susu 106 days ago.
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