If I have sex before marriage will I be forever condemned by God?Will I go to hell?Will I be a bad person?

God loves every one , and forgives all sins, and wanting a child dont make you a bad person , sex is not bad, but its your call , and do what is best for you , and all will be well

Do what you believe. I don't believe that God would send someone to hell for sex before marriage. That is me. You may believe differently.

What is more important, sex before wedlock or waiting to be married for that special moment?

26 is still young, why not focus on finding a great boyfriend that understands your wanting to wait?

If you really want to know, I wil say this: First of all, the bible does not teach a hell fire, It is in fact very clear that any use of the term hell is just mans common grave. In fact it states that the dead are concious of nothing (ecclesiastes 9:5). Second sex is taught in the scriptures as a privledge for mairried people (hebrews 13:4). Third you would be putting yourself in a bad relationship with God and with any hope for his promised gift of ever lasting life (psalms 37:9,10,11,29 1corinthians 6:9). Yes I know how you feel about not having sex. I wish I were married too. But in the mean time don't panic, if your only in your twenties, you have alot of time to get some. If you search for true religeon and live by Gods standards, well then you will have all the time in the world to get around to it.

First of all I think that it is admirable that you have abstand this long, therefore you can feel really good about yourself control. As A Christian Christ understood your temptation better than we could ever imagine or understand and he knew you would hold out aslong as you have. No one should ever tell you to or not. I think that decision is yours.To be born again is to except that forgiveness is what christ death was all about. You have to understand that people are much more critical than Christ ever will be. We are more critical of ourselves than he. To obstan until we find the person we want to marry and not have sex right away will eliminate the naturl consiquencies of lack of trust later in marriage. Pick the right man wait a while then decide married or not. Feel good about your decision no matter what. Comdom alway until marriage.

Obviously you're not a born-again Christian because you certainly don't understand the rules of the game. Sex before marriage - NO. Children out of wedlock - NO. Eternal hell and damnation - YES.

Come on KammyKate . . . a real Christian would tell you you're being tempted by the devil. I tell you you're human in a world where religion has no meaning, credibility or purpose any more except to incite wars between people who believe differently.

Sex can be a beautiful experience, but don't think about this in terms of religion. I have told many young women the same thing from the Doctor Leon site - http://www.drleons.com - "Your first time is a precious and intimate gift you can only give to a man once in your lifetime."

I would hope you are mature enough to realize and understand that. When things are right and you finally meet the right man for a more permanent long-term relationship, it would be sad if you spend the rest of your time with that special man feeling guilty and ashamed because you gave the most precious gift you have to someone else before him.

Yes, everybody seems to be doing it and I assure you a large number of those people doing it will at some time in the future wish they had not done it when they did.

You are definitely undergoing a battle of the wills with your raging hormomes, but you seem to be considering sex as an enticement to trap a man into a long term relationship. Very bad idea. Not because you will go to hell . . . both you, I and quite honestly everyone else knows that is a croc . . . but because most women as "hot to trot" as you appear to be generally find themselves "used" by a succession of men who want nothing more than a "score." I think you want more than that.

Take cold showers, buy a "toy" or two and hold on to your most precious gift (no pun intended) until you meet a man who can earn your trust and intimacy with his own gift of adoration and devotion for life. A dream . . . maybe, but if you can believe in a fantasy like god, maybe you should believe your dream of the "right" guy can come true too.

This answer was edited by ldsch 120 days ago.

Reason: Correct typo.

Religion is man made, just as laws about chastiy. I think guilt is the worst punishment. I know chastity is mentioned in the Bible but so are concubines, which were not actually wives. The commandment: "thou shall not commit adultery" means against a husband or wife. Ofcourse no one grows up saying when I grow up I want to sleep around, or when I grow up I want an abortion, but things happen and there is no point in killing yourself over it. We all make mistakes but those are what growing up and learning is all about. God is a very forgiving God. There are so many worse sins than that. Ofcourse if you haven't already then I wouldn't suggest doing it.

I really admire you for your longterm decision to wait. I wish I had the courage to stand against the pressure of the man I was with so many years ago. Virginity is not a bad thing, it's a gift, something that is supposed to be saved for the man who would be your husband. My heart rejoices for your choice to follow Christ and your choice to be abstinent. God does tell us that he wants us to maintain self control over our bodies and that our bodies are not meant for sexual immorality.(1Cor.6:13, 10:8 and 1Thes. 4:3) No, God will not hate you nor condemn you to hell for fornicating or having a child out of wedlock. But keep in mind, that does not mean fornication is okay with him. And every time we sin, especially sexually, we greive the Holy Spirit who is in those of us who chose Christ as Savior.(Eph. 4:30) I don't say all this to make you feel guilty for your feelings, we all have them. However, the world would have you believe that whatever everybody else is doing is okay because they feel good doing it, and nothing that feels good can be bad right? Unfortunately, there are a host of problems associated with disobeying God's commands, even those to do with sex. Can you say STD. Sex is a wonderful thing...I guess, but it is meant to be enjoyed within the marriage union only. Don't worry too much about getting married or having children before you're old, such worries tend to get us in trouble...believe me, I know. Oh, and don't pay any mind to the guy who says you're not a born-again Christian just because you don't know about this subject. We are all babies in the beginning, only able to drink milk. Just remember, if and when you do sin in any way( we are not perfect just because we are saved), confess it to God and repent, because God says that if you confess your sins he is just and faithful to forgive.(1Jn. 1:9) Also read Romans 8:1.

You won't go to hell for it, but sex before marriage is a sin! God has special plans for all of us, and if you spoil that He won't be pleased. It's only human to have desires, but be strong and overcome those desires. Realize that you are better than that, and God wants better for you. There's someone out there in this world for you, and when you find him, and get married it will be all the more special if you wait like God wants. God forgives us for all are sins when we ask, but it doesn't mean that we can disobey him if we like because we know we'll be forgiven. God knows all are thoughts, so we cannot plot against Him or hide anything from Him.

Hon, don't give into the temptations! You will be glad you didn't in the end, and so will God.

Jesus did say that fornicators and adulterers and homosexuals would not inherit God's Kingdom, but he then said "That is what some of you were" speaking to his disciples saying but you have been washed clean. There is hope after sin, but that doesn't mean you should run out and get yourself laid. Your conscience can be a real problem afterwards, condemning you for a long time, even effecting your relationship with you Husband in the future. I speak from experience, you may judge yourself harsher than our true judge Christ Jesus would. Many times when we worry about finding a mate we find it difficult to do so, maybe because we may act desperate unknowingly to us, but others may pick up on it. when I stopped looking I suddenly found a girl I couldn't let go of, the key I feel was that I wasn't looking. I was concentrating on more important things, like serving God, and working on my own inner qualities that would make me more attractive to others, and God.

Once you have accepted Christ as your savior you CAN NOT loose your salvation. You will have to answer for the sins you commit, but your salvation is secure. The blood of Christ is suffecent to cover all sins.