How important is sex in a relationship?

We are 25 yrs old 1 kid. I thnk our sex lfe sucks. We have sex about 3 times a mnth. I see it as a prblem but she dsnt. She is a good Mother and keeps up the house and everythng but our reltionship as a couple I feel is going no where. After we had our kid she is like she is a fulltime mom and not my wife anymore. I dont know what to do, I feel rejected by her too much and is making me insecure about her love. Intimasy is just boring and not becuase I dont like her but becasue I am always the one that starts. She never wnts to do anything like put somthng sexy on or nothing special. It feels like lets do it and get it over with. she said she likes it but is hard to belive. I dont know what to do I love her but as a couple I dont feel love back.

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Submitted 355 days ago...

sidelko

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It sounds like sex isn't what you are looking for, but intimacy.

I have heard about problems like this in other couples as well, they have kids and their sex life and everything changes overnight. It could be that she sees herself as a mom now, not the type to have sex all the time.

The best thing you could do is talk to it, and tell her your needs. And how you like it when she dresses up sexy, or does or that. Maybe you could see if one of your parents could watch the kid for a night like once a week, to help get her out of parent mode and into the playful sexy mode that you like and want her in. She may have a subconscious problem with wanting to have sex, in the house with the baby around.

Hope that helps.

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Submitted 355 days ago...

jbossette

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DO you let her know she's beautiful. Sex ise'nt everything. Commutication is the key. It's something that the both of you have to work out. My wife and I went through the same thing. Now we both enjoy having sex 3-4 times a month. You have to start doing speacial things for her. Just the two of you.

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