Preganant teen

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As far as your daughter goes, even though she is a minor, all states require her permission to put a child up for adoption, so you can't force her she'll have to decide that for herself. Have you talked to her and told her the situation. She may have no concept of how much children cost and what a burden that could put on the family. Giving up a child is a very difficult decision and she would have to be prepared for it mentally and emotionally. You could try talking her into meeting with other people who are pregnant and giving their children up for adoption to provide the babies and the moms a better life. Maybe once she sees this, she could consider it, but since it is her body and her baby it is ultimately her decision.

If she does keep the baby you can also get child support from the father, but I have a feeling it more than just an issue of money for you. It sounds like you don't want the burden of raising another child when you have 5 to care for already and you probably want to see her become more than she is now. I hope some of that helps.

Here is a good site to find "meet ups" or groups in your area:

http://www.meetup.com/

http://www.bethany.org/A55798/bethanyWWW.nsf/0/16133594B7B07A0285256E2 4005A0E61

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Yes this is very helpful and you hit it right on the money she does see how hard it will be because she has lived it for 16 yrs but all of her friends at school have babies and she is in a class at school and they have all talked her out of it .she sees it is putting a BIG stress on all of us and she will not be able to take care of it it will all be on me thank you for your help

Maybe because she sees all of her friends in class having babies, maybe she just wants to keep the baby to "fit in" with her friends in school.

it is a difficult spot you are in, and you can't force her to have an abortion or to give it up for adoption either.

You might want to talk to her and let her know, that she will be expected to get a job once the baby is born, if not already, to pay for both the baby and the additional expenses she will incur to raise it, as you can't provide for both of them.

Adult privileges come with adult consequences and its time for her to be an adult, if she keeps this baby she has no choice but to make adult decisions for it and take on adult responsibility, and u stepping in an taking care of this baby for her isnt going to teach her anything but she can have them and not take care of them we all want the best things for our children but unfortunately we cant always be there to make sure that is going to happen and sometimes the toughest lessons are the best she is just going to have to step up to the plate and be responsible for her decisions

I have to disagree with you tchan. Your love for your daughter is unconditional and you should be there to support your daughter even though she has made a mistake. If you make her "pull herself up by her bootstraps" it's going to be detrimental to both young lives. I was lucky to have a mom like this who would always help me along the way no matter how bad the choices were instead of turning her back on me. I'm a happy, successful person and had she not supported me, then I wouldn't be any of those things. Being a parent is a lifelong commitment, not just until they are old enough that the state says you aren't legally responsible for their decisions. I pray you'll have a change of heart and I really hope things work out for you!