What are they ganging up for

Please answer my question with the most respect!

I definatly respect the fact that you are looking at getting input as opposed to just doing something stupid - it shows you are definatly more mature than your cousin. The fact is, and I hope that you listen as I can tell you have a gut instinct about what my advise is anyway.

The fact is, you don't want to look like your scared or that you will back down from a fight, so you are willing to go along right? Well I want you to think for a second about 10 years from today. My guess is that you are 14-17 years old. That means I am about 10 years older than you and I have friends from high school who have gone both ways.

If you focus on what others think about you and you become a "follower" you can get caught engaging in gang activity. Get put in jail, hang out with more people who will talk you into doing whatever they feel like. Then you will go in and out of jail and at some time will have a felony. You won't be able to get a job, car financing, home financing for 10 years after that felony is committed. So when you are my age, you will be broke, uneducated, un-hirable. You will probably still live with your parents, and it will take another 10 years to correct the damage you have done to your life.

Now lets look at your life 10 years from now, if you take this exact moment to say you won't be a follower and you won't let others pressure you into ruining your life the way they are ruining theirs. You finish school, and decide you want to go to college where you can have fun, met great, smart people and work towards becoming anything you want. In 10 years you have your own house, a job that you LIKE going to everyday and you are in control of your life, not other people who could care less if you are fulfilled.

The fact is, these people don't care what your life looks like in 10 years, so why would you let them talk you into something detrimental to you. If you have 14 people ganging up and fighting 4, you are asking for someone to be mutilated, and deformed for life or worse, dead. That is a situation I wouldn't touch with a 10-foot pole and I hope you'll listen to some random person on the internet and spare your life and make something better for yourself. Good luck!

Obviously, you think their arguments are stupid. Why be a part of this? If you just ain't feelin' it, maybe this group isn't for you.

Also, if i was ever in a situation where i was in a group of 14 who wanted to fight a group of 3...nah. I wouldn't be a part of that at all! I mean, would it really be worth it? Cause, yea...you already know your going to win. Plus, is it really nessacary to start fights about "silly" things?

You defaintly sound sensible. I can tell because you value other peoples opinions..you want to hear from us what we think is is right. Sometimes, in such situations, it's better to value your own opinion.

Think about this. When you die, how do you want to be rememered? "Oh, him? The kid who always hung out with the wrong crowd, and beat up on other kids?" or "Aw. He was such a good person, always." It's your choice.

*REMEMBER: the choices you make will affect you in the long run. what comes around goes around.

Ok thats so not a fair fite whoever are the main 3 ppl in the larger group in this argueement let the other group start the fite but dnt immatate them toi do so then if u HAVE to defend urself do so one on one

Do what you think is right and you will be able to sleep better at night.